positive vibes March 12, 2008

Sending postive vibes out into the universe

I will get a nice generous offer

they will be flexible with me in terms of schedule & start date

I will find a lovely place I love in a great city with a great roommate(s) or the perfect place by myself

I will make new great friends to spend my free time and have fun nites in the city with

I will succeed in my new program and be even more motivated b/c more of my peers will be there

The change will be a great, positive experience for me!

you can do it! March 7, 2008

• I have a hard thing to do tomorrow. It will be hard for me to let my employer and friend know that I am looking elsewhere and may have found something. They’re going to freak out and I’m going to have to deal with the consequences. But I remind myself that I am an adult and can deal with the consequences. I am not a child and what I am doing is, for myself as an adult, an important step in my career. It will be hard b/c it will be shocking, but better from me than someone else, and it might be a load off. I’m going to try not to think about it before I do it. I just know I will phrase it as that I know it’s a bad time and I wouldn’t do this intentionally but this opportunity came up and I think it’s a good opportunity and so I have to consider it. Then I will tell him about the job I applied for and went through the interview process and the next step for them is calling you and I wanted to let you know before they call you.
• The way he takes it is his problem. I just need to remember that.
• I also need to remember that I am a big girl and, no matter the consequences, I can handle it!

cost-benefit analysis March 4, 2008

taking the new job

Benefits:

• better pay
• upward mobility
• more responsibility
• better job; more experience
• promotion – good for career
• get to try a different city
• get out of my rut here and try something different
• explore other marketing opps
• a new social scene

Costs

• leaving job – comfort zone
• possiblity of getting promoted here at some point
• leaving school friends
• leaving work friends
• finidng new apt
• moving costs
• breaking lease

not taking job

Benefits:

• can stay in my school program with friends here
• may get promoted here
• no hassle of apt-hunting, moving, transferring

Costs:

• may pass up good career opportunity
• may pass up a promotion that could better my career and may not happen here
• staying here in my misery for another how long?
• others phasing out – do I want to be here?
• continued depression
• continued job search
• getting stale with my life

my guy March 2, 2008

Looks

• tall and slender or slender/muscular
• blondeish-brown hair
• eye color doesn’t matter
• clean-cut all american yet has a cultured and artistic side, yet stil interested in sports and outdoor activities
• cute (did I need to say that?)

Personality:

• laid back/casual but still ambitious and goal-oriented
• he is successful in whatever career he has chosen or on the way to it, and has goals for himself
• funny. have to be able to have fun with him. life is too short.
• open & communicative
• affectionate

My guy to me:

• calms me down when I’m stressed
• makes me laugh when I need it
• doesn’t let me take life so seriously
• pushes me to try new things

Hobbies

• likes to be out and about
• keeps active – sports or gym
• Must like to travel

5 qualities he must have:

1. ability to have fun
2. ambitious & goal-oriented
3. likes to travel/try new things
4. values friends & family
5. sense of humor

5 things he must not have:

1. possessiveness/controlling
2. inability to communicate
3. laziness
4. stubborness
5. lying